I'm married. My personal view is that I don't need to go making female friends. That doesn't mean I need to be mean to them, or avoid making female friends, I just don't see the need. I have all the female companionship I can handle with my wife and family.
So I go surfing the LDS blog ring, and they're most of the lady persuasion. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I suppose I'll have to rely on Ben for blogger friendship.
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Thanks for the link love. :)
This sort of thing has been on my mind for the last couple of years -- not with regards to blogging, per se, but friendships in general. When I get married, what's an appropriate level of friendship for all of the female friends I already have? Obviously any glimmer of romance is completely out of the question, since I plan to be 110% loyal, but what about normal friendship? It's pretty clear that I won't be able to be as close to them, true. Does even normal friendship feel awkward, though? ("I'm not cheating on you, honey, I promise. She's just a friend.") I don't know. I suppose I'm worrying about something that isn't really an issue -- when I do get married, my wife and I can establish whatever guidelines feel right and good for interactions with the opposite gender.
But your point is that you don't feel a need to make female friends. I'm pretty sure I'll feel the same way, come to think of it.
I wonder why there are so many lady bloggers... (Maybe it has to do with the female need to be listened to. ;))
I think ladies are a bit more inclined to a.) have feelings and b.) discuss them.
Yeah, the guidelines are completely up to you and your wife. I'd just like to avoid any complex situations. I have no problems with other people who are friendly with other ladies when they're married, for me it's a personal choice.
Well, one's wife won't always provide the companionship one needs for something. Being different people, there are bound to be times when she won't be interested or whatnot in something you care about, and vice versa. So I suppose friends for those cases are fine, but obviously using the same rationale to extend friendship to something romantic is wrong.
So in the end, I don't know. Um...think of them as men?
But see, that's the thing. Yes, my wife can't satisfy all my needs socially. When I get going on fish tanks, she just doesn't give a rip. That's fine, I really can't get into scrapbooking. :)
BUT... All the female companionship I could need comes from my wife, sisters, and mother. There's nothing else that women have to offer me that can't be supplied from those three sources.
Quit calling us ladies. WOMEN. We're women.
:)
Your female friend,
Kermit
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